One Regret From My First Pregnancy…

One Regret From My First Pregnancy…

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My first pregnancy came as a complete shock. It was horrible timing in many ways and it was so hard to find myself excited about becoming a mom (don’t worry, I did get there before my daughter arrived). My husband had lost his job the previous year due to a spontaneous pneumothorax (big words essentially meaning his lung spontaneously collapsed). Things really went down hill for us from there.

One week before I got that + sign on a pregnancy test, my husband moved to Texas to find work and I stayed behind to finish my final semester of student teaching.

Once I became excited about my pregnancy, I really wanted two things: a 3D ultrasound and maternity pictures. Money was so tight then and I knew I would only be able to get one. After long consideration, I chose the 3D ultrasound over the pics. I figured I would probably be pregnant again one day and be able to get pictures but I would never have another chance to have 3D pictures of this child, my first child, again.

While I still stand behind this decision 20 months later, there is a part of me that wishes I could have had the pictures done as well.

I knew my 2nd pregnancy would be different. My husband and I both work and while sometimes things are tight, we have everything we need and a few things we just want. I knew as soon as I learned I was pregnant that this time I WOULD get maternity pictures (and a 3D ultrasound).

Perhaps this post seems ridiculous but I am just keeping things real.  I hope some of you lovely ladies enjoy my favorite pictures from my recent maternity session as much as I do! Perhaps some moms to be will find inspiration for their own maternity pictures…

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I would love to hear from mothers who did and did not take maternity pictures?
I would love to hear how you feel about you decision now!
  • Helena June 16, 2015 at 11:15 pm

    Those are absolutely beautiful pictures! The white on white is so beautiful!

  • Jessica Lynn June 17, 2015 at 2:14 pm

    Thank you for being honest about this. I know budgets don’t always have extra wiggle room for things like maternity pictures, but I can see how something like that would leave you regretting it later. I was the opposite of you—the place where I lived didn’t offer 3D pictures at all, and I was so jealous of all the pictures I saw of my friends with their babies, so I had maternity pictures taken instead. I vowed that with my next baby I would have 3D pictures taken, and I did (we moved and the place we moved to had the capabilities)! I also had more maternity pictures, because I loved documenting that time with my belly.

    • parentingwithoutamanual@gmail.com June 18, 2015 at 1:06 am

      That’s wonderful that yall moved somewhere where 3D could be done. The first time I saw a baby in 3D I just couldn’t believe how lifelike they really are! Technology has come such a long way!

  • Charlotte June 17, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    Cute pictures. I never got maternity pics done and i’m ok with that, I took some myself with my phone. The most important pictures to me will be of my growing son outside of me. Thank you for sharing!!

  • Bethany June 17, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    As a mom with a five month old daughter (my first) I can say I’m so happy that I got maternity pics done. I have been really lucky to know a to of photographer friends so we played around and had a few different styles to choose from. It’s awesome to look back on. I do wish I had professional newborn pictures done though! That’s my regret.
    You look so lovely, I adore the dress it’s perfect! Flattering, but you still get your belly shot 🙂 Congratulations on both precious babies of yours!

    • parentingwithoutamanual@gmail.com June 18, 2015 at 1:04 am

      I’m excited to have that time documented to look back on in the future and I’m sure you are too! As for the dress—is amazing what you can find on etsy!

  • Lara June 17, 2015 at 5:32 pm

    Thank you for sharing! Your Photos are amazing!!! <3
    xoxo
    Lara

  • Shari June 17, 2015 at 5:39 pm

    Your maternity pictures are gorgeous, I’m so glad you got to get them with baby 2! We were tight on money and struggling a bit when I was pregnant with my first (and so far only) as well, so I reached out to our wedding photographer and asked him if he would be willing to take them for free in exchange for expanding his portfolio from weddings a bit. I also answered a Craigslist ad for a local photographer. I’m so glad I did the two different sessions since both photographers had different styles of taking pictures, and between the both of them I got the images I wanted. I also used the Craigslist photographer for free images when my daughter was first born. I highly recommend reaching out to aspiring photographers wanting to build their portfolios. 🙂

    • parentingwithoutamanual@gmail.com June 18, 2015 at 1:01 am

      I would have used my wedding photographer had we not moved to another state! Up and coming photographers on Facebook and Craigslist are great options!

  • Jaime June 17, 2015 at 5:43 pm

    Beautiful pictures! I never had maternity photos taken, or 3D ultrasounds. I do kind of regret not getting the pictures done, especially since I don’t think we’ll have a second child. But what matters to me is that she’s here, and my pregnancy was in the past. =)

  • Brittany Bergman June 17, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    Thanks for sharing these reflections! I’m pregnant with my first, and I decided against the 3D ultrasound (not because of money, but just because I don’t want it), but I’ve been on the fence about maternity pictures. Everyone I ask about it says they’re either so glad they have them, or if they didn’t do them, wish they had. I guess it’s one of those things worth investing in!

  • Jaclyn June 18, 2015 at 1:47 am

    Oh, we definitely got pregnant at a stressful time as well. It’s great to be blessed with a child, regardless of the timing…but, I can understand the frustration in the timing! We actually got adorable maternity pictures because my mom kind of made us, paid for it, and drove us! Haha! Your pictures are beautiful; glad you finally got them. 🙂

  • Lauren White June 18, 2015 at 3:36 pm

    Gorgeous pictures! I did maternity pictures for my pregnancy, but they aren’t “beautiful” ones like yours. I regret not having a flowy dress and having those belly shots. I live in Florida, and on the day of my maternity shoot, I was 7.5 months pregnant and it was about 96 degrees that morning. I rushed through the pictures and I so regret that! But, you know what… I’m okay with that. I look at my beautiful baby girl and just snap pictures of her instead! 🙂